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Does a Heterosexual Marriage Guarantee a Godly Marriage?

Over the past decade or two, there has been much debate about same sex marriages and heterosexual marriages. There have many well-intended arguments for, and against same sex marriages.

However, I believe there are some heterosexual marriages that are just as displeasing to God as homosexual marriages. In our society today, we have many couples who married because of what they could get out of the marriage. They wanted love on their terms; they wanted security on their terms; they wanted success on their terms; etc.

In Ephesians 5:21 Paul tells us: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” It is possible to have a heterosexual marriage, but still refuse to submit to each other. Many well-intended marriages turn into ‘control’ duals. Each spouse wants to control the other spouse. They gather all types of ‘ammo’ to use against their spouse. They become so concerned about the faults of their spouse that they fail to see their positive traits. The things that bought them together soon become the things that drive them apart. Why do they drive them apart? It is because they do not want to surrender control to someone else. They would rather criticize each other than surrender control of the marriage.

Many of the statements that marriage counselors hear from a spouse when counseling them, are incomplete. They tend to leave off a very import phrase at the end of their complaint. They should add this phrase “…the way I think it should be.” I hear wives complaining about the husband not being the spiritual leader. But the wife fails to follow the spiritual leading of the husband because his leadership is not what the she thinks it should be. Husbands cannot lead unless they have someone follow them.

On the other hand, many husbands expect their wives to become slaves. Many husbands tend to abuse their wives. They tend to treat their wives as their personal servant, doing all the things the husband wants done. If the wife does something differently than the husband expects, the husband will complain about it, making the wife feel like she did something wrong.

These husband and wife issues are natural occurrences. When God disciplined Eve for eating the forbidden fruit, He said that the woman’s desire would be to control the husband but the husband would rule over her. (See Genesis 3:16)

The Bible says husbands are to love their wives “just as God loved the church and gave himself up for her.” The love that Paul is telling about in Ephesian 5 is a “giving” love and not a “getting” love. God wants marriages to be a loving relationship; a relationship that puts the other spouse first. God also wants both spouses to follow His guidance through the Holy Spirit.

When the husband and the wife follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit, they become a cord of three strands. It becomes a marriage where husband, wife, and God have a mutual purpose. Ecclesiastes 4:12 tells us “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” This is the only type of marriage that will be pleasing to God. It is a Godly marriage. It will be a marriage filled the happiness and the satisfaction that couple desire.

NOTE: Scripture quoted in this blog were downloaded from www.biblegateway.com

What is the Best Way to Change Our Government?

The Bible tells us about an incident that happened hundreds of years ago. It is a situation much like what we in the United States are facing today. The incident is the time when Goliath, a Philistine  was insulting God’s people, the Israelites. He was making a mockery of God and His people.

The Israelites stood their ground each day as Goliath came out to challenge them to send someone to fight him. They would listen to the giant and cowered in their position, afraid the end was near. They were afraid to send someone to kill the giant, Goliath.

This went on for several days until David came to the scene to see how his brothers were doing. While David was there, Goliath came out to ridicule the Israelite army and God. But when David talked to his brothers about it, they got upset with him when he asking them why they didn’t kill the giant.

After David’s discussion with his brothers, King Saul called for David. Here is their conversation as recorded in 1 Samuel 17:32-37

 David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.” 33 Saul replied, “You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth.” 34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, 35 I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. 37 The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.” Saul said to David, “Go, and the Lord be with you.” 1 Samuel 17:32-37(NIV)

The king then tried to dress David in his own armor, but it was too heavy for David. David was not used to wearing armor, he was used to trusting in God for protection. So, David asked to go in the shepherd clothes because he was used to wearing them; that is what he wore as a shepherd.

Frequently when we come upon a difficult situation, we try to address the situation using the tools of the world, like the king wanted David to do. We think that the armor will protect us rather than trusting God to protect us. The problems we face in the United States today is that we are trusting in a political party to save our country. However, both political parties are wearing political clothing. They both use the same tactics to gain personal control of government, just like King Saul wanted David to do. The King wanted David to wear the same type of armor that both armies were wearing. But David wanted to wear the clothing that God had prepared for him. David knew that this battle was a spiritual battle, not a political battle.

The problems we have with government are not caused by political parties, they are cause by sin. You cannot use political jargon to counteract spiritual problems! If you want to change this country, first humble yourself before God then do what God wants you to do so that God can be victorious. Don’t be like the Israelite army and just stand there while the government continues its downward slide. Trust God and do something, just like David did when he trusted God.

If you are not willing to submit to God, then you might just as well get used to the country deteriorating as you prepare for  your final destination. However, if you are willing to submit to God, you will begin to experience peace, hope, and love as you prepare for your final destination. You will be able to see God making the changes, when you are willing to let Him make the changes.

NOTE: Scripture used in this article was downloaded from www.biblegateway.com