Mother’s Day: and the Churches Responsibility to Mothers

To my fellow pastors concerning mother’s day.

Do any of you have women in your congregation that have had an abortion? Do you have anyone in your congregation that has recently lost a mother? Do you have any people in your congregation whose parents are divorced? Do you have any one in your congregation who has tried to have children but couldn’t? Do you have anyone in your congregation that has had an abusive mother? Or maybe they grew up being passed from one foster home to another? Do you have any mothers who gave birth out of wedlock?… And the list goes on.

Please think about what your church does to women on mother’s day. The church does not have the right to abuse women just because it is mother’s day.  The mother-child relationship of your congregation is a private issue between a child and a mother. It is not a public issue! God is in control and some mothers are struggling with what God has given them. They may not be ready to tell the whole church about their relationship with their mother. Some women have finally come to grips with their mother-child relationship and we dig it up again. Perhaps the church is placing a big stumbling block in the way of women, and preventing them from becoming the woman who God called them to be?

Does your sermon make reference to Proverbs 31?  If it does, please put the scripture in context. This writing is not about the modern day, American woman. So don’t try putting the guilt trip on women who do not live in the culture or time that the passage was written.

Why not talk to women about the plan that God has for them?  How about telling them about what the Holy Spirit wants to do in their lives? Being a Christian mother is more about spiritual living rather than it is about gaining possessions or becoming a workaholic.  How about giving them words of encouragement ?

See to it, brothers and sisters, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. 13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. 14 We have come to share in Christ, if indeed we hold our original conviction firmly to the very end. Hebrews 3:12-14(NIV)

For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ. 10 He died for us so that, whether we are awake or asleep, we may live together with him. 11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:9-11(NIV)

Or perhaps you could talk about why God created woman?

But for Adam, no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;  she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:20b-25(NIV)

If you believe that the church has a place in the lives of mothers, then maybe mother’s day would be a good day to talk about James 1.

Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. 27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. James 1:26-27(NIV)

Or about 1 Timothy 5

 If any woman who is a believer has widows in her care, she should continue to help them and not let the church be burdened with them, so that the church can help those widows who are really in need. 1 Timothy 5:16(NIV)

So, on mother’s day, let us give up the traditions of abusing women. Instead, let us encourage them to keep faith and to become the person that God intended them to be.